NewBut They Was So Charming, Yeah, So Are Con Artists
- ✓Hoovering defense statement
- ✓Premium unisex cotton tee
- ✓Available in Black, Burgundy, and Cream
- ✓Validates the survivor experience
About This Design
Hoovering is the tactic narcissists use to suck victims back into the relationship after periods of distance or after the victim attempts to leave. It often involves an intense charm offensive, grand romantic gestures, heartfelt apologies, and promises of change. The same charm that made you fall for the narcissist in the first place is the same charm they deploy to pull you back in. "But they were so charming" is the most common defense of abusers by people who have never been on the receiving end. This shirt gives the perfect response: yes, and so are con artists.
- Hoovering defense statement
- Premium unisex cotton tee
- Available in Black, Burgundy, and Cream
- Validates the survivor experience
- Machine washable, bold print
The charm was real. The tactics were also real. But charm is not a character reference, and charisma is not the same as integrity.
Con artists are charming. That is how they work. This shirt says what so many survivors needed to hear when they were defending their experience to people who had not been there.
Premium unisex cotton in Black, Burgundy, and Cream.
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